Disclaimer: This post contains some very strong personal opinions that I’m pretty sure will offend someone. You’ve been warned.
So oral arguments began to be heard by the Supreme Court today concerning marriage equality. Today I wore red and changed my Facebook profile picture to the image above to show my support for ALL people to have the right to marry the person they choose – regardless of gender – and for that marriage to be recognized and treated like all other marriages in the eyes of the law.
I was so proud that so many of my Facebook friends changed their profile picture to show their support as well. I was also very disappointed in some of the hateful, narrow-minded comments I received as a result. I exercised my right to use my “unfriend” button more than once today. I might have been unfriended by some folks too. In either case, c’est la vie.
I have several friends who are gay/lesbian, both virtually and in real life. Some of them went to high school with me. Some of them I’ve only met since I’ve become immersed in this world of genealogy and blogging. Regardless of how I know them, one thing they have in common – without dispute – is that they are all wonderful, loving human beings who all have something to offer and make this world a better place to live … and dammit, they deserve to be treated the same as everyone else. They deserve to be happy.
And now I’m mad. And frustrated. All because there are people out there who simply want other people to be UNhappy because they see them as different. Maybe that’s why it’s so frustrating for me – I don’t see any differences.
I heard about a gay couple who live in different countries and because they can’t marry, one of them can’t become a U.S. citizen. They can’t even visit each other for more than 6 months out of the year. Another couple have been together for over 20 years, but they’ve never shared health insurance. Oh, and if one of them dies, the other has no claim to any inheritance.
I was watching a television show and a man was brain dead and being kept alive by a ventilator. He was gay. He and his partner had been married in their home state (Massachusetts, I think), but he was sick in another state that didn’t recognize their marriage. According to the laws of that state, his partner had absolutely no standing to make decisions regarding his husband’s medical treatment. It was left to his “official” next of kin, his sister. This happens in real life. All. The. Time.
I’m sorry, but I find it appalling that two people who have committed themselves to each other and to their relationship can be disregarded so easily. Disregarded and discriminated against. Because of who they are.
In her post today, Judy G. Russell over at The Legal Genealogist said it so eloquently: “That they find joy in a partner of the same sex is so much less important than that they find joy in a partner.” It really is THAT simple.
So I will spend the next few days sending equality vibes to the Supreme Court Justices in hopes that they will make the right decision so my friends can pursue happiness like everyone else.
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